Be an Upstander, not a Bystander: Inclusive Allyship

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noun. a state formally cooperating with another for a military or other purpose.

verb. combine or unite a resource or commodity with (another) for mutual benefit.


A lifelong process of building relationships based on trust, consistency, and accountability with marginalized individuals and/or groups of people. not self-defined—work and efforts must be recognized by those you are seeking to ally with.

Why do we need to be Inclusive Allies?

We are all humans. We are all equal. We all need to check our privilege. We need to empathise with the struggle that some people go through. We need to be aware of the obstacles and the barriers in the way of some people on their journey.  We need to be aware of the impact of prejudice and discrimination.

#HeForShe and #WhiteAlly are two labels I have heard used in the last few years as the grassroots communities encourage supporters to join their movements for change.

Much like #DiverseEd aims to make connections between the different communities, we need a term to capture everyone who works with others to. In the last week at our #CollaborativeSupportForWomen event and our #DiverseEd event we have promoted the idea of Inclusive Allies.

Amy Ferguson spoke about Allyship on Wednesday and the recording is here.

Patrick Ottley O’Connor spoke about Allyship on Saturday and the recording is here.

Allyship is a process, and everyone has more to learn. Allyship involves a lot of listening. Sometimes, people say “doing ally work” or “acting in solidarity with” to reference the fact that “ally” is not an identity, it is an ongoing and lifelong process that involves a lot of work. 

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Inclusive Allyship is:

How do we support as Inclusive Allies?

Allyship is about confronting othering, ‘isms’, privilege, prejudice. Allyship is about standing up and speaking out on social justice issues.

I found a great website called Diversability which encourages us to think differently about allyship and I have lifted the below advice from The Guide to Allyship.

How to be an Inclusive Ally:

  1. Take on the struggle as your own.
  2. Stand up, even when you feel scared.
  3. Transfer the benefits of your privilege to those who lack it.
  4. Acknowledge that even though you feel pain, the conversation is not about you.
  5. Be willing to own your mistakes and de-center yourself.
  6. Understand that your education is up to you and no one else.

There is a great article here on 7 ways to be an Inclusive Ally:

  1.  The Sponsor
  2.  The Champion
  3. The Amplifier
  4. The Advocate
  5. The Scholar
  6. The Upstander
  7. The Confidant

Allyship will not always be comfortable. We need to get comfortable with being uncomfortable. We need to check our privilege and realise that our momentary discomfort is not comparable to the long term discomfort that people live with. Trauma and tragedy are the lived experienced for many people.

There is an article here on How to be an Ally During Times of Tragedy.

What do we do to be Inclusive Allies?



There are  10 Things You Can Do to be an Ally:

  1. Listen
  2. Get educated
  3. Get involved
  4. Show up
  5. Speak up
  6. Intervene
  7. Welcome discomfort
  8. Learn from your mistakes
  9. Stay engaged
  10. Donate

For teachers and those working in education we need to consider the impact we can have in our classrooms and our schools.

We need to be the change in teaching tolerance and acceptance, we need to celebrate diversity and create a sense of belonging for all identities. We need to ensure that our environments and physically and psychologically safe for everybody. We need to have the big conversations about the world to equip everybody with the knowledge, skills and values to navigate society.

There are some tips on how to be a teaching tolerance ally here.

For leaders, being an ally is a journey.  Even the most inclusive leaders admit they have room to grow.  The work never stops, yet it is your choice to start, to practise, and to be better every single day.

There is a programme here on leading like an ally.

My #DiverseEdPledge is to be a better Inclusive Ally.

Let’s all be upstanders for what is right, not bystanders for what is wrong.