#DailyWritingChallenge Day 85: Autonomy

noun. the right or condition of self-government; (in Kantian moral philosophy) the capacity of an agent to act in accordance with objective morality rather than under the influence of desires.
In developmental psychology and moral, political, and bioethical philosophy, autonomy is the capacity to make an informed, uncoerced decision. Autonomous organisations or institutions are independent or self-governing.
I thrive in cultures which enable autonomy. I love being autonomous.
When I reflect on my roles over time I realise that my job satisfaction, my sense of fulfilment and my wellbeing were deeplf affected by how autonomous I could be in each role, in each organisation, in each context.
As an Assistant Principal, my Principal trusted me, he empowered me to be autonomous and I thrive. As a Vice Principal, my new Principal controlled us, he micro-managed me so we were disempowered. As a Headteacher I was initially quite autonomous, and then the Trust became more and more controlling, each line manager tried to rein me/ us in (also all men).
The tensions between my line manage, my employer and I have all stemmed back to my autonomy being restricted or removed. I wonder if perhaps my frustration also links back to the patriarchal power structures at play.
Our ability to be autonomous comes from our ability, our experience, our capacity, our confidence along with how we are trusted and how we are held to account. Our ability to enable and empower others to be autonomous relies on our trust and faith in them.
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For me, autonomy is rooted in independence. It is fuelled by the need for freedom. It is framed through integrity.
Our schools do not enable and empower teachers and leaders to be autonomous. Our system conditions us to be compliant. Our society trains us to follow rules, to not be disruptive or rebellious.
Do we fear autonomy? Are we afraid of losing control?
“The 3 things that motivate creative people: autonomy, mastery and purpose”.
Daniel H.Pink 
We go into teaching as our purpose, we deepen our understanding and polish our craft to become masters, as creative beings it is the autonomy or lack of that drives us out.
“Autonomy is different from independence. It means acting with choice”.
Daniel H. Pink 
We enable and empower others, the children we serve, the teams we lead to be independent and to make choices. Being autonomous is also about owning those choices and the consequences that arise.
“Control leads to compliance: autonomy leads to engagement”.
Daniel H. Pink
We seek to self-manage and to self-regulate, we strive to enable others to do the same. When we relinquish control, when we release the need for compliance, autonomy increases and engagement thrives.
“Alignment enables autonomy”.
Henrik Kniberg 
After 18 years of working in the system, I have taken the leap of faith to work independently. I am now truly autonomous. My purpose, my passion and my gifts are in alignment as my intentions, my practice and my autonomy are brought to life – they are working in synergy with one another.
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I know who I am, I know what I want to do and I know what I can do.  I know that I am doing what I am mean to do because I am happy, content, stress-free. I feel purposeful, passionate and fulfilled.
What I didn’t realise when I made that leap of faith was that I had already wings – I had built them over time. As I jumped from the cliff and left security, stability and safety behind me, my wings have enabled me to transform into the autonomous being I have also needed to be. I make informed uncoerced decisions, I am  independent and self-governing. I am empowered in my autonomy.
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#DailyWritingChallenge Day 84: Reputation

noun. the beliefs or opinions that are generally held about someone or something; a widespread belief that someone or something has a particular characteristic.
Our reputation is formed by what we say about ourselves and by what others say about us. It is the messaging around who we are.
Our reputation is built over time. It is the result of who we are, what we believe in and what we do.
Our reputation is earned.  It is the mirror being held up and the light being shone on who our hard work, our intention, our conviction and our commitment.
“You can’t buy a good reputation: you must earn it”.
Harvey MacKay
Our reputation is the external narrative about us. It is the extension of our internal narrative.
Our reputation is less important than our character. It is who we are inside, what we think and know about ourselves that is more important.
“Worry about your character, not your reputation. Your character is who you are. Your reputation is who people think you are”.
John Wooden
Our reputation is not fixed. It evolves with us as we move through different stages of our personal and professional lives.
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Our reputation is our integrity. It is how we show up, how we behave and how we interact with others.
Our reputation is fragile. It is easy to damage our reputation – that one time we are late, that we miss a deadline, that we make a bad choice, that we are rude or ignore someone, unfortunately puts a dent in our reputation.
“It takes many good deeds to build a good reputation, and only one bad one to lose it”. Benjamin Franklin
Our reputation is the amplification of everything we do. It needs to be considered and it needs to be nurtured and guarded.
Our reputation is valuable. It is the endorsement of how we communicate about ourselves.
“Take care of your reputation it’s your most valuable asset”.
H Jackson Brown Jnr
Our reputation precedes us.
Our reputation reflects us.
Our reputation follows us.
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#DailyWritingChallenge Day 83: Commitment – a blog by Baar Hersi

Growing up I thought about commitment in terms of committing to someone or something, like a marriage or a business partnership. But life has taught me that commitment to oneself is the most important form (act) of commitment. I believe my successes and my growth are rooted in my commitment to honouring the woman I am, the woman I want to be, the woman I deserve to be.

I witnessed and learned about different forms of commitment from my parents. They modelled it through their 50 years marriage, their life choices and the way they are always all-in to finding solutions when faced with challenges as parents, as spouses or even their own personal lives.

Commitment to myself gave me permission to be kind to myself and to learn to pivot to make things work for me. I want to share a moment in my life when that commitment along with blood, sweat and tears got me through to fulfil my new found purpose.

After graduating from university I worked in Human Resources and at that time I thought I found my career path but life or GOD I should say, had a different plan for me. I was lucky enough to find and marry my soul mate earlier on in my life. In fact we have just celebrated our 20th wedding anniversary (Ma Sha Allah). Neither of us can believe it because we still joke about the day my husband came to my parents to ask for my hand in marriage. I still remember how nervous he was and the conversation about whether or not we were sure as we were both so young.

Moving on, we had our first child after three years and quickly fell pregnant again with our second child. I call them my twins although they are 13 months apart. I blame the literature and the health visitor who told me that breastfeeding is a form of contraception. But then again, I believe GOD had a different plan for me and I believe he is the best of planners.

Anyway, due to a number of factors such as high childcare costs and living further away from my family, I chose to take a five years career break to look after my babies. This was an easy decision in some respects but challenging in other ways because I’ve had a job since the age of 15. Thinking back now, I really didn’t give myself much time to process that transition until a lot later because I had two beautiful babies who were dependent on me so I quickly submerged myself into my role as a new mum and I loved it.

Motherhood felt like I was always on a rollercoaster, filled with periods of highs and lows and moments of complete bliss followed by moments of sheer apprehension. Not to mention, the pressures of society’s contradictory expectations of what it means to be a good mother. As well as the constant unsolicited advice, comments and judgements about our parenting decisions.

Nevertheless I found my groove, my confidence and what worked for me and my family. And although, I grew in confidence as a mother, I was left at a career crossroad. I was questioning whether or not I can go back to my old career. This period of my life was filled with reflection, contemplation and a sense of loss. I know I was not the same person but I didn’t know how to use the new sense purpose motherhood gave me to reinvigorate and advance my career.

It took a few years of volunteering, working as a TA and helping out at PTA to identify my new purpose and passion for education.

I have always known the power of education and the thought of contributing to the growth and successes of young people enthused me. I was hooked on the idea of becoming a teacher. I did all the research and found that a GTP (Graduate Training Programme) was the best path into teaching as it offered me the consistency and income I needed as a parent. By the time I got on the course I had my third child, who was under. I know how this decision might sound crazy to some but my kids fuelled my need to succeed. Having a career and doing well had always been important to me but now I was committed to being a role model and providing for my kids.

Starting this journey, I really thought I had an idea of the challenges and obstacles I was going to face during my teacher training but it was far more demanding, testing and taxing than I imagined. No amount of reading, planning or scheduling could have prepared me for the working mother’s guilt, my raging hormones, the sleepless nights and the sheer exhaustion of balancing teacher training with being a mum of three young children under the age of six.

But I refuse to give up and you would understand why if you knew my mum and dad’s story.

So what did I do?

I learnt to adapt, to prioritise, to ask for help and leaned more on my husband and my other support systems. Also, I requested to complete my teacher training on a part time basis which helped dramatically. Then I built a network and a sisterhood with other working mums and sought out allies (including SLT) at work who saw my passion and knew I was an asset to the school. I am grateful to say that I met lots of guardian angels who helped me along the way. .

Make no mistake, this was the most challenging time in my life, there were moments I was barely functional and wanted to quit. Then a parent would say a prayer for me because I helped them and their child. And this kept happening again and again. This gave me the encouragement and conviction to continue because I can see the impact I was making. So I tuned out my negative inner chatter and channeled the prayers, the positive energy and my inner voice telling me to persevere until I secure my QTS. My final observations were outstanding, my mentor (and now friend) was so proud of me that she told the observer that I accomplished this with three young children in tow.

I didn’t do this on my own but I did accomplish this because I committed to myself, to the woman I want to be, to the woman I deserve to be. Becoming a mum has been great for my career path because motherhood awakened innate gifts that I had and sparked my new purpose as an educator which I love and I am very good at.

But this started with commitment to thyself.

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#DailyWritingChallenge Day 83: Commitment

noun. the state or quality of being dedicated to a cause, activity; an engagement or obligation that restricts freedom of action.
Being committed is a bond. It is a bond to a person, a thing or an idea.
“Without commitment, you cannot have depth in anything, whether it’s a relationship, a business or a hobby”.
Neil Strauss
Being committed is active. It is something we do.
“Commitment is an act, not a word”.
Jean-Paul Sartre  
Being committed is a promise, a pledge that is not broken. It is a non-negotiable.
“There’s a difference between interest and commitment. When you’re interested in doing something, you do it when it’s convenient. When you are committed to something, you accept no excuses, only results”.
Kenneth Blanchard
Being committed is future-focused. It is the act of converting what we think into what we say, what we promise into what we do.
“Commitment unlocks the doors of imagination, allows vision, and gives us the right stuff to turn our dream into reality”.
James Womack 
Being committed is solutions-focused. It is being focused on the goal and navigating the journey around any barriers or obstacles in our way.
“When confronted with a challenge, the committed heart will search for a solution. The undecided heart searches for an escape”.
Andy Andrews    
Being committed is being driven. It is about being all-in, no conditions.
“There are only two options regarding commitment. You’re either in or you’re out. There’s no such thing as a life in-between”.
Pat Riley
Being committed is saying “I will” but actually making what ever you have pledged or promised to happen, actually happen.
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#DailyWritingChallenge Day 82: Conviction

noun. a firmly held belief or opinion.
“Belief is not a  matter of choice, but of conviction”.
We each have our own individual set of beliefs and opinions. Some are fixed, some will evolve. Our belief systems centre around our values, how we have been brought up, who we are and what we care about. 
If you can’t clearly articulate what you believe in I would question how strong that belief is. Your conviction is your why: why you believe, why you care, why you will defend your belief.
“Belief is knowing what you believe, conviction is knowing why you believe it”.
Josh McDowell
An opinion and a conviction are different and have a different pull in our hearts, in our guts.
An opinion is something you believe in, something not everyone will agree with, sometimes we will “agree to disagree” on a difference of opinion or on a different perspective on a situation.
“An opinion is a belief that you hold. A conviction is a belief that holds you.
Few would be willing to give up their lives for an opinion, but many have tied to stay true to their convictions”.
Michael Youssef
A conviction has a stronger pull than an opinion, it is something you will not let go of, something you will not compromise on, something that your integrity will not let you settle on.  
Our conviction compels us to speak out, to stand up, to do something.
Our conviction is the line in the sand, the non-negotiable, the burning platform we will stand on.
“Conviction is not merely an opinion. It is something rooted so deeply in the conscience that to change a conviction would be to change the very essence of who you are”.
Ravi Zacharias  
Having conviction in what you believe, in what you say and in what you do requires you to dig deep. What you believe in your heart, will not always bring alignment and agreement from others. We need to be prepared for the challenge and the criticism.
To have conviction we need strength.
To have conviction we need resilience.
To have conviction we need courage.
“You don’t change the world with the ideas in your mind, but with the conviction in your heart”.
Bryan Stevenson 
When we are driven by our convictions, we are driven by our heart. We know and we feel it is the right thing. Our convictions need acting on. Our convictions will make things happen as a consequence of our belief.
Conviction needs action.
Conviction brings change.
Conviction creates hope.
“Change arises from conviction. Stop voting in fear. Start voting in hope”.
George Monbiot

Our convictions are the lens through which we see and understand the world. They shape what we understand, what we do and what we stand for.

We are convinced by our convictions.

We are committed to our convictions.

We are rooted in our convictions.

“Conviction is a force multiplier. If you want something, claim it in your gut.

The universe itself responds to your inner certainty”.

Marianne Williamson 

When we are certain in who we are, in what we believe, in our convictions – we have the confidence and the courage to carry on, in pursuit of our mission. It is not always easy, but the strong belief and the deep rooted conviction in our conscience give us the strength and the resilience to continue, to take that leap of faith.
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#DailyWritingChallenge Day 81: Intention

noun. a thing intended – an aim or plan; the healing process of a wound.
Intention is a mental state that represents a commitment to carrying out an action or actions in the future. Intention involves mental activities such as planning and forethought.
Intention and action go hand in hand. Intention without action, is passive. Intention with action, is purposeful. Having an intention is not enough, it is what you do with it that matters.
I get frustrated with the phrase “they had good intentions”. I feel like this is often used as an excuse. I don’t think many people have “bad intentions”. There are just intentions. Having “your heart in the right place” is all well and good, but it does not bring results.
“Intention good or bad, is not enough”.
John Steinbeck 
There are a lot of people who intend to do a lot of things. How many times have you heard people say they will start exercising, they will lose weight, they will stop smoking, they will be tidier, they will get a new job. They may be things they want to do, and in their heads they intend to do them, but without a plan, without preparation, without commitment to action, intent is not enough.
“It’s not intentions that matter. It’s actions.
We are what we say, not what we intend to do”. 
For me it is the difference between those who dream and those who do. Those who graft bring their intentions to fruition. They give their intentions life.
Some people spend more time talking about their intentions, than they do, making their intentions happen. Intentions need resource – time, energy and commitment. Intentions need passion and purpose.
“Every morning you have two choices: to continue to sleep with your dreams.
Or wake up and chase them”. 
To have intentions is not enough. To be intentional makes our intentions active. 
We need to start with our why and be clear what our intentions are.  We need to then carefully plan our intentions, we need to know how to realise them. We need to think them through and think them out. We need to know what they will look and feel like when we accomplish them.
Sometimes we will not know the answers, we will need to build the bridge as we walk towards them, but each step we will get closer to making them happen.
There are a lot of intentions in the world right now. We need to be strategic in our intent. Whether it is the recovery curriculum, the talent management crisis, the mental health crisis or the diversity and agenda that you care about, that you have intentions for, you need to have a plan and you need to prepare.
“Great intentions become tragic action when delivered without careful thought”. Michael Dooley 
We need to be contextually literate. We need to consider the cause and the effect of the situation. We need to be clear on our desired outcomes. We need to be mindful of the circumstances.
Strategic intent requires a compelling vision, a statement about where an individual or an organisation is going that succinctly conveys a sense of what will be achieved in the long term. Our strategic intent captures our aspirational plans, our overarching purpose and our intended direction of travel needed to reach our vision.




#DailyWritingChallenge Day 71: Balance – a blog by Liz Cartledge

Life is all about balance. Balancing your work-life balance, eating a balanced diet, being balanced in your views and as a leader for me, weighing things up to make a balanced decision is part of everyday life.

Lots of relationships in people’s lives are balanced too, you’ll hear people saying “You make a good team, you really balance each other.” Whether you find this in your personal relationships or at work, it’s something to hold onto for sure. Professionally, I know this from experience and feel lucky to have found this in my current post. I am lucky to work with an amazing leader and I hope we provide the balance for all those we lead.

When things do not balance it leaves us considering what could be and can lead to us being unhappy. Throughout life we have to make decision to balance things. I think when we can do this it really makes a difference to a mental well-being.

Having just become a Mum I am returning to work after almost a year of maternity leave. Of course, I am aware how difficult life as a working Mum will be, but I have decided to return to work in order to get the balance right for me and my family. I think for me, it will make me a better Mum as it will give me a balance of caring for my daughters and being a teacher. Before becoming a Mum, I was a teacher for 18 years. Of course, nothing worth its weight in gold comes easy in life and this is definitely a good example of this. I have yet to find a fellow colleague who says it’s easy being a working Mum, but I do speak to several working Mum’s who say it gives them a balance, the balance they need. I can empathise with this and that’s what I am aspiring to achieve.

I also feel that returning to work part-time as a senior leader will give me a balance of work and home which I hope will make me more reflective about both my work at school and work as a Mum. It will give me time to step back, step out of the building to think. I am going to maintain my Mum work day solely for being a Mum, in order to keep the balance well and truly alive. I think without this self-discipline it’s impossible to get the balance I am looking for.

Only this morning as I was out running did I realise that another benefit of having this balance of work and mum work as I like to call it, I will be able to truly say I can empathise with fellow colleagues who work part-time. In an era where schools and organisations are encouraged to look for flexible working patterns for employees; and particularly women who return after maternity leave, I feel this is incredibly valuable for me to experience. One day, perhaps if I choose to become a Headteacher, I can truly empathise about the benefits of working part-time as a Senior Leader. The best Headteachers I have worked with have always been the ones who have ‘been there, done it, got the t-shirt’ ones and I want to be able to say I can understand how it can work so that I too can ensure I can offer such flexible working contracts to keep staff and families happy, which after all is what all emotionally intelligent leaders do. This quote sums-up my aspiration:

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#DailyWritingChallenge Day 80: Altruism

noun. disinterested and selfless concern for the well-being of others; behaviour of an animal that benefits another at its own expense.

Altruism is the principle and moral practice of concern for happiness of other human beings or animals, resulting in a quality of life both material and spiritual.

I am lucky to know a lot of altruistic people. People who give their time, their energy, their experience and their resource for free.

I am lucky to know a lot of people who are light-bearers. People who shine a light, who share the light and who light up others with their presence.

“Every man must decide if he will walk in the light of  creative altruism or in the darkness of destructive selfishness”.

Martin Luther King

So what are the traits of an altruistic person?

1) They put others first.

2) They think about how their actions will affect others.

3) They feel good after helping someone.

4) They are proactive.

5) They possess and display a healthy degree of self-confidence.

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My reflections:

How altruistic are we as individuals? How altruistic are the people around us as a collective? How many of these altruistic people do we take for granted?

It is human nature for us to be selfless and to want to help others, but some people lose this and become selfish in their behaviours and self-centered in their thinking. In psychology altruism is also referred to as ‘cooperative behavior’, this way of being enabled our ancestors to survive under harsh conditions.

Cooperative behaviour is the interaction of two or more people or organisations directed toward a common goal which is mutually beneficial. An act or instance of working or acting together for a common purpose or benefit, i.e. joint action.

In today’s highly complex society, altruism still serves a purpose. In fact I have noticed that people have become more altruistic during the period of lockdown. People have thought less about themselves and more about others. The sense of community and a collective endeavour, a shared experience,  has returned, for now at least.

“Altruism nourishes humanity and turns a beast (man) into a human”.

Masood Ahmad

People who are altruistic do it because they are in service of others. Their kindness comes from a conviction that it is the right thing to do. There is not an ulterior motive. The acts can often go unnoticed and unthanked, but the ‘gift’ was not gifted with that as an intent.

Our society has become driven by transactions. If someone does something for the sake of doing it, it can be questioned as to their motive.  There is an expectation that in giving there is something to take back in exchange.

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So what are the rewards?

There are emotional benefits of being altruistic. Humans behave altruistically because it is emotionally rewarding. Even when we don’t expect recognition or reward for a good deed, we often feel energized and happy afterward. This sensation is sometimes called a ‘helper’s high’ or a ‘warm glow’. The emotional response helps to reinforce altruistic behavior in those who feel it.

“Altruism is the best source of happiness, there is no doubt about that”.

Dalai Lama

There can also, ironically, be financial benefits!

Studies suggest that altruists may reap unexpected financial benefits from their kindness because others will feel compelled to reward their kindness; other research has found that donating money to charity might make organisations more valuable.

Over the years, I have gifted a lot of my time. I have organised events, I have spoken at events, I have self-funded my travel, I have supported my network, I have been a listening ear, I have checked letters of applications, I have prepped people for interviews, I have hosted coaching circles.

I do these things, because they help others and because others have done them for me. I pass the gift of a helping hand, a shoulder to cry on or to stand on, a listening ear, on to others who will benefit from it.

I don’t do any of these things to receive anything back, but my kindness is often rewarded with further kindness. I am touched regularly when I receive surprises in the post – cards, gifts and flowers – as thank yous from people I have helped along the way.

Some of my favourite messages are from people who I have never met, people who have reached out to say thank you for something I have said or done, which has impacted them, without me even knowing it.

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I often get push back from people in my life that I am too generous with my time and my energy, that I give too much away for free, but I am not going to stop being me. However, my relationship with time, money and energy is different now I am not salaried, and I am exploring this tension as I navigate my new journey.

I want to be in service to others, I want to continue to give and support, but I also need to balance earning a living!

“The root of happiness is altruism – the wish to be of service to others”.

Dalai Lama 

Being happy, being altruistic, being in service are all drivers in me for the work I do. I am committed to empowering others to empower themselves and to pass the feeling of  empowerment on to others.

I will finish with one of my favourite quotes from one of my favourite writers and role models.

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#DailyWritingChalleng Day 79: Blessing

noun. God’s favour and protection; a prayer asking for divine favour and protection; grace said before or after a meal; a beneficial thing for which one is grateful; a person’s sanction or support.
I am not a religious person. I am christened, but I only go to church for weddings, christenings and funerals.
But I do feel blessed.
I often think that I have Guardian angels looking down on me, keeping me safe.
I sense that my maternal Grandmother, Cathy, my maternal Grandfather, Bill, and my maternal Great Aunt, Clarice, are up there/ are out there, looking out for me.
I am not scared of many things but I am scared of the dark and I am scared of death. Both gave me many sleepless nights as a child. As a child with a vivid imagination, who dreamt in technicolour I experienced recurring nightmares about both.
I have had two near-death situations which I have walked away from unscathed, which brought my fears to life. I feel blessed to have survived both accidents. I feel blessed that my parents rescued me on each occasion.
The Skiing Accident
When I was 16 I was skiing with my family in France. I was more confident that my Mum and my sister, and would often take the harder pistes with my Dad. We took a nasty black run with one day, which we had done a few times before, called ‘Le Face’, it was a vertical decline. That morning, it was a sheet of ice, and I stopped to let some people pass to create some space.  As I paused, I crossed the tip of my skis, I lost my balance and I fell.
I kept falling.
As I somersaulted down the mountain, picking up speed and momentum, my skis came off and snapped, my ski jacket road up and exposed my skin, which grated on the ice and became raw. The skiers on the chair lift above us were screaming as they watched me hurtle down the mountain. My Dad was behind me and could not get in front of me to help. My Mum and my sister were on the adjacent blue run and saw me falling to my supposed death.
For those of you who had not met me, I am 6 ft 1, I am heavy. My mum is 5ft6 and slim. I don’t know who or what got in to her, but she took it upon herself to save me, to stop me in my tracks. She skied across from her slope to ours and broke my fall. I must have hurt her, and it must have winded her, but the adrenaline gave her the strength and the courage to do so.
The rest of what happened is a blur. I can remember getting off of the mountain and back to our apartment.
I miraculously did not break anything. I was shaken, bruised, battered and my back was bloody and raw. But I ‘walked’ away relatively unscathed.
I was blessed.
Dad got me to ski again the next day to make sure I didn’t develop a fear of skiing. When I talk about the Wilson family grit, resilience and character-education that is what I mean. At the time I may not have appreciated it, but it did the trick and I still love skiing today, so I am grateful he did so.
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The Car Accident
A year later, I was 17 and I had recently passed my driving test. I had been babysitting for my family friends on Exmoor, and I was driving back late through pitch black country lanes, in the middle of nowhere, in the early hours.
This was before I even had a mobile phone. That night Dad had said to take his Vodafone brick with me, “just in case”.
As I came to a junction, another car drew up opposite me and started revving their engine, flashing their lights and beeping their horn. It totally freaked me out. So, I waited to let them go. The boy racers clearly thought it was funny and continued their behaviour, so I tentatively pulled off. They followed me and continued with their ‘game’.
I stubbornly drove slowly and carefully as they pursued me. They got bored eventually and raced off, but as they did so I must have lost concentration and been distracted momentarily by their antics as I hit the hedge.
The next thing I knew, my Ford Escort was upside down in the middle of the road, and I was hanging from my seat belt, suspended in the air. The engine was still on. All I can remember thinking was that the car was going to explode.
I managed to get myself out of the car. It was pitch dark and I was petrified. I was in the middle of nowhere, there was no natural light not artificial light to be seen.
I scrabbled around and managed to find Dad’s brick.  I called home and told Dad I had been in an accident. I didn’t know my precise location and I was in shock, I was hysterical and I must have been pretty incoherent.
He jumped into his truck and headed out to find me, to rescue me. I can’t remember who arrived first, my Dad or the taxi with some rugby lads in who had been out on the lash.
But the group managed to tow my car to a gateway to clear the road. Before Dad got me home to safety, someone had already reported the accident to the police, and the local copper had banged on our front door to tell Mum that I was missing! Luckily she knew that was not the case.
When the car was towed back to us the next day, we all looked at it and burst into tears. I honestly do not know how I managed to get out of the wreck, nor survived the crash.
I miraculously did not break anything. I was shaken and scared, I was bruised, had whiplash and a tender chest from the seatbelt. But I ‘walked’ away with just a tiny scar on the back of one hand as a reminder.
I was blessed.
Dad got me to drive again the next day to make sure I didn’t develop a fear of driving. Another example of the Wilson family facing their fears head-on.
So I have been blessed and very lucky twice. My Guardian angels have kept me safe. My parents have come to my rescue.
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#DailyWritingChallenge Day 78: Order

noun. the arrangement or disposition of people or things in relation to each other according to a particular sequence, pattern, or method; an authoritative command or instruction.
verb. give an authoritative instruction to do something; request (something) to be made, supplied, or served.
I like order.
I am a highly-organised person and my friends, family and colleagues often laugh at my need for order around me. I like things to be colour coded, alphabeticised and stacked in size order. My book shelves, my wardrobe, my drawers, my cupboards are meticulous.
Everything has a place. Everything has a home.
When I bought my new house I was most excited about having a garage and ordered shelves and boxes to tidy and sort loads of random stuff I have collected over the years.
I am someone who cannot sit down and relax until the washing up is done. I get home from holiday and put the kettle on, unpack and put all my clothes in the wash. I make my bed as I get out of it each morning.
My house is always very tidy, and my friends who have kids come over and enjoy the peace and calm of an unchaotic space.
I like a routine and  I go to bed at the same time and get up at the same time most mornings.
Order is my friend.
Order for me brings clarity, certainty and consistency. Order also means I am in control of my environment. Order makes me happy and calm. Order anchors me and centers me, amidst the chaos or in a crisis.
“We adore chaos because we love to produce order”.
M C Escher
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I don’t like orders.
I am not very good at being told what to do, I never have been. I am confident, independent, headstrong – some would say stubborn.
I respect authority but I like to be in control of what I am doing. I thrive when I am autonomous.
I respect routines, rules, protocols and laws because they create boundaries and parameters for us to work with in, but I also like navigating them and finding where there is wiggle room.
I am not someone who reads and follows recipes or instructions, I like to find my own way of doing things.  Unless it is a life or death situation of course.
I prefer to be asked than to be told. I find that being told what to do, what to think, how to behave is disempowering and inhibiting.
I am rebel in many ways.
“Seek other people’s advice, but don’t take orders. And don’t take 100% of anyone’s advice. Make sure every decision you make is a decision of your own conclusion.
Be a student, not a disciple”.
Jim Rohn  
As I reflect, I have realised that I thrive in environmental order, and I suffocate in ideological order.
My coping mechanisms during the Covid-19 lockdown and social isolation have been focused on what order can I create in the chaos, what order can I bring to the crisis. I have helped others to process their emotions and bring some order to their thinking.
I have been in control of my bubble. I have firmly maintained the sense of order around me. For this situation I have also taken the orders, I have fully followed the recommendations – I have done as instructed. It has frustrated me that others have not.
It has pained me that there has been disorderly behaviour in society. It has concerned me that there is a sense of some people’s behaviour being out of control, especially on social media.
This is when we do need an authority figure to step in, to create order, to give orders, before a Lord of the Flies-esque situation appears.
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